Self-Care Benefits Relationships

Shaan Puri believes that a more effective approach to relationships is for each person to focus on self-improvement for the benefit of their partner, rather than trying to directly care for each other.

Key Points:

• Traditional Relationship Model:

  • "I'll take care of you, and you take care of me"
  • Can lead to feelings of neglect or disappointment

• Proposed Alternative Approach:

  • "I'll take care of me for you, and you take care of you for me"
  • Focus on personal growth and self-improvement

• Benefits of this Approach:

  • Empowers individuals to control what they can change (themselves)
  • Reduces dependency and potential resentment
  • Both partners end up in better shape overall

• Broader Application:

  • This principle extends beyond romantic relationships
  • Can be applied to personal development and societal improvement

• Connection to Personal Responsibility:

  • Aligns with the idea of "cleaning your own room before trying to change the world"
  • Emphasizes the importance of self-governance before attempting to govern others

• Outcome:

  • By focusing on self-improvement, both partners contribute to a stronger relationship
  • Creates a positive cycle of growth and mutual benefit