Zero Questions Date

Logan Ury shares insights about a common dating problem where men fail to ask questions.

"A lot of women say to me, 'I go on dates that are ZQ - zero questions.' They ask the guy tons of questions, and the guys didn't ask them a single question. And then when I talk to guys, 'Hey, how did this happen?' they say, 'Well, she asked me a question. If she wanted to answer it, she should've just answered it already.'

And I was like, 'No, ask her the question back. Make her feel interesting.' I think that's a huge tip - make people feel interesting. Be interested, not interesting. People think, 'I have to have the best stories,' but what people actually want to do is talk about themselves. Ask them questions, seem very interested in them, and that will make the other person like you.

There's all this research that in conversations where one person is talking a lot and the other person is asking questions, the first person thinks, 'Wow, that other person's a great conversationalist.' And what that actually means is they made me feel interesting and important. So I think there's so much that men can do just by asking questions, asking follow-up questions, seeming really interested in somebody, and remembering stuff. If a girl says on a date, 'I have a big project that's due on Tuesday,' then text her Monday night or Tuesday morning and say, 'How did that go?' These little things go so far."