Reciprocity Drives Favors
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A psychological principle of influence where people feel obligated to return favors, even when the return favor is disproportionately larger than the original favor.
Core Concept
- People naturally feel compelled to repay favors
- Can be used to influence behavior and decision-making
- Works on basic human psychology similar to Pavlovian conditioning
- Can be used for both positive and negative purposes
How It Works
- Start with doing a small favor for someone
- Creates a sense of obligation in the recipient
- Can then request a larger favor in return
- People often pay back disproportionately
- Small initial favor can lead to much larger return favor
- Higher likelihood of compliance due to feeling of obligation
Real World Example
- Motorcycle purchase scenario:
- Seller asking $3,000
- Buyer brought two Cokes
- Offered one to seller
- Made lower offer of $2,200
- Seller accepted despite refusing same offer from others
- Small gesture (Coke) potentially influenced larger transaction
Learning Resources
- "Influence" by Robert Cialdini
- Fundamental book on influence principles
- Changed speaker's life
- "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
- Classic book from 1930s
- Still effective today
- One of best-selling non-fiction books
Applications
- Business negotiations
- Personal relationships
- Sales techniques
- Professional networking
- Can be applied across various life situations
- Works in both personal and professional contexts
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