Missing Manhood Rites

Sam Parr discusses the modern challenges of male development and the absence of traditional rites of passage in contemporary society, particularly focusing on how this affects young men's transition to adulthood.

Key Points:

• Historical Context of Male Rites of Passage:

  • Previously, clear markers existed (military service, getting a job, having kids)
  • Wars provided a societal framework for masculine transition
  • Religious institutions played a significant role

• Current Challenges:

  • No clear modern equivalent for male rites of passage
  • Women have biological markers of transition; men lack clear developmental milestones
  • Religious decline has removed traditional frameworks
  • Silicon Valley example: Men in their 20s-30s still "dress like kids" and don't "act like men"

• Proposed Solutions:

  • Need for structured development from ages 8-18
  • Creation of artificial rites of passage
  • Character-building programs specifically for young men
  • Importance of hands-on mentorship and guidance

• Modern Parenting Trends:

  • Tech executives increasingly limit children's screen time
  • Growing desire for offline, character-building activities
  • Parents seeking alternatives to digital engagement

• Personal Experience:

  • Attended all-boys Catholic high school
  • Recognizes value of structured male development
  • Wishes for more hands-on father figure guidance
  • Sees value in organized character development programs

• Future Opportunities:

  • Market exists for character-building programs
  • Growing demand for structured male development
  • Need for new frameworks to help boys become men
  • Potential for both religious and secular approaches