Young Men Falling Behind

Logan Ury discusses a growing crisis among modern men, where young males are falling behind in education, employment, and dating, creating significant societal implications including declining marriage and fertility rates.

Key Points:

• Young men are increasingly falling behind in key life metrics:

  • In the UK, 1 in 7 men aged 16-24 are "NEET" (not in education, employment, or training)
  • This number increased 40% during the pandemic for men, compared to only 7% for women
  • Men are prioritizing activities like video editing over dating and relationship building

• Education and employment gaps are widening:

  • 60% of college enrollment is currently women, soon to be two-thirds
  • Women are outperforming men across metrics: college enrollment, graduation rates, earning potential
  • Many young men are choosing career-focused activities over dating and relationship development

• This creates a "mating crisis":

  • Women typically practice "hypergamous mating" - seeking partners of equal or higher status/success
  • As women outpace men educationally and financially, the pool of eligible men shrinks
  • When college becomes two-thirds women, half of those women won't have equivalent college-educated men to date

• Real-world impacts are already visible:

  • Many successful women in their 30s-40s struggle to find suitable partners
  • Marriage rates are nearing all-time lows in the US
  • Fertility rates have dropped 20% in twenty years
  • Rise in polyamorous relationships partly due to shortage of "great guys"
  • Increase in women choosing single motherhood via sperm donors
  • Growing interest in AI companionship (like Replika AI boyfriends)

• Men face emotional challenges:

  • Many men carry unaddressed shame and lack spaces to discuss it
  • Men's groups can provide valuable support for processing emotions
  • Men tend to "hold everything in" rather than expressing vulnerability