$600K Couple's Iced Tea

A story about how seemingly small financial disagreements often mask deeper issues in relationships.

"A person wrote me on Instagram DM and said 'Can you convince my husband to stop buying iced tea every day?' I asked how much it costs, and she said '$5 every single day - we can make it at home.'

I said 'Okay, interesting. Hey, out of curiosity, what's your household income?' She became very cagey but eventually shared it. They live in New York, and they make $600,000 a year.

What you could see is that it's really not about the $5. To him, it was like 'Hey, we work hard, this is just a little treat that I enjoy every day.' To her, it was values-based on how she was raised and why would you spend money outside.

This perfectly demonstrates that when couples have disagreements, the real issue is they don't have a shared vision of their rich life. They've never talked about what they want in life - they've only talked about 'Why did you spend that much on a drink?'"