Run Club Dating

Sam Parr suggests that meeting people in real life is more effective than dating apps, but Logan Ury points out that modern daters lack the social skills to approach others in person.

Key Points:

• Problem with Modern Dating:

  • People want to meet "the old-fashioned way" but aren't actually meeting in real life
  • Gen Z lacks "rejection resilience" needed for in-person approaches
  • There's a "fine line between confident and creepy" that people haven't figured out

• Root Causes of Poor Social Skills:

  • Helicopter/snowplow parents who removed obstacles
  • Colleges that "bended to every will"
  • Workplaces with lenient sick day policies
  • Lack of experience dealing with rejection

• Dating as a Skill:

  • Dating is relatively new in human history (started around 1800s)
  • People aren't naturally good at picking partners
  • Dating is a learnable skill that can be improved

• "Date Like a Scientist" Approach:

  • Run experiments to see what works
  • Challenge your assumptions about what you want
  • Test different types of people than your "ideal" on paper
  • Be willing to be proven wrong about who makes you happy