Relationships Need Community

Logan Ury believes that community support is essential for successful relationships, as we need more than just our partner to fulfill all our needs and provide support in life.

Key Points:

• The Importance of Community:

  • We are not meant to just be married with one person fulfilling all our needs
  • We need a community around us to support us in various ways

• What Community Provides:

  • People to "talk shit about our partner with"
  • Help when someone is sick
  • Assistance with childcare
  • Emotional support beyond what a partner can provide

• Real-Life Example:

  • Witnessed a Jewish-Indian wedding where the bride's parents had built a beautiful community called "potluck"
  • The community showed up for the wedding and danced during the sangeet
  • The children of the community members are all friends
  • This community helped shape the bride into who she is

• Personal Resolution:

  • The experience inspired Logan to "invest even more in my community"
  • Recognizes that strong relationships are supported by strong communities

• Dating and Relationship Dynamics:

  • Modern relationships face challenges where expectations have changed
  • Women now expect more than just a provider - emotional intelligence is "the new currency in dating"
  • Men weren't raised to develop these emotional skills
  • Gender roles are blurring, making dating more complex