Kid-Like Parenting Framework

A parenting approach focused on actively playing and engaging with children rather than traditional passive supervision. The key insight is that being childlike and playing alongside kids creates a better experience for both parent and child.

Core Philosophy

• Spend 80-90% of time playing and being childlike with kids
• Only 10-20% of time needs to be "adult mode" for structure/discipline
• Don't worry about being a dad/parent - focus on being a kid again
• Lean into playing rather than supervising from the sidelines

Benefits of This Approach

• Makes parenting more fun and enjoyable for the parent
• Creates better connection and engagement with children
• Increases patience due to better mood
• Makes activities more exciting for kids when parent is involved
• Time passes more enjoyably rather than waiting for it to end

Real Examples Shared

• At birthday parties:
  • Most parents stand on sidelines making small talk
  • Better approach: Jump in splash pad and play with kids
• During activities:
  • Doing cartwheels in gymnastics class
  • Playing soccer with kids after class
  • Getting in pool for 3 hours
  • Playing video games together
  • Reading books interactively

Key Mindset Shifts

• View mandatory kid time as an opportunity to play
• Don't default to supervising from the sidelines
• Be willing to look silly/undignified
• Remember that playing is contagious - creates better energy
• Focus on having fun yourself rather than just facilitating fun

Impact

• Creates fuller, more enjoyable days with kids
• Builds stronger bonds through shared experiences
• Makes mandatory parenting time into quality time
• Sets example of staying playful and engaged
• Leads to more patient and present parenting

The framework emphasizes that the easiest way to be a good parent is to spend most of your time genuinely playing and engaging rather than just supervising. This creates better experiences for both parent and child.