Yes-And Conversation Method

The "Yes-And" technique is a conversational method where you agree with someone's statement but then redirect the conversation in your preferred direction. Here's how it works based on the podcast discussion.

Core Concept

• Appear to agree with what someone says ("Yes")
• Then completely change direction to what you actually want to discuss ("And")
• Creates illusion of agreement while pursuing your own agenda

Real Examples from Podcast

• When discussing dinner plans:
  • Person A: "What do you want to eat?"
  • Person B: "Well I had Thai for lunch"
  • Person A: "Thai! That's a great idea, I'm so glad you said Thai" (Even though B never suggested Thai)

Key Benefits

• Can't be argued with easily since you're technically agreeing
• Maintains conversation flow without direct disagreement
• If called out, can claim you're just building on their idea
• Helps avoid being a "buzzkill" or stopping conversational momentum

Strategic Usage

• Best used when you want to redirect conversation
• Works well in brainstorming scenarios
• Can be used to take control of discussion direction
• Particularly effective in business/creative contexts

Potential Drawback

• Can be obvious if overused
• May frustrate others who notice the pattern
• Could be seen as manipulative if used too frequently

The technique essentially allows you to control conversation direction while maintaining apparent agreement with others' input.