Daily Gratitude Practice

A simple but powerful daily practice system focused on gratitude and building relationships through thank you notes, based on insights from Guy Spier and others.

Thank You Note System

• Write 3 thank you notes daily before leaving the office
• Core principles:
  • Consistency matters more than perfection
  • The act of writing changes your internal wiring
  • Focus on genuine appreciation rather than obligation
  • Can include sending relevant articles/materials of interest

Implementation Tips

• Start with "thank you" rather than "I like you" - feels more natural
• Take time to actually think about the person while writing
• Don't just go through motions - develop genuine care
• Can seem awkward at first but becomes natural over time
• The practice makes you more caring through repetition
• Focus on quality over quantity in relationships

Daily Gratitude Practice

• Identify 3 specific grateful moments each day
• Key aspects:
  • Focus on concrete moments vs abstract concepts
  • Look for moments during the day to "store" for later
  • Share with partner/spouse for accountability
  • Trains brain to actively seek positive moments
  • Helps develop more grateful mindset over time

Benefits

• Develops genuine care for others
• Trains brain to look for positive things
• Creates valuable relationships over time
• Compounds positive impact through consistency
• Changes internal wiring to be more appreciative
• Builds meaningful connections with people
• Can lead to unexpected opportunities and relationships

Why It Works

• Repetition creates habits
• Action precedes emotion - doing leads to feeling
• Reticular activating system gets programmed to notice positives
• Consistency compounds impact over time
• Forces mindful appreciation of daily experiences
• Creates accountability through daily practice